My daughter who is 11 years old decided in May 2010 to go and live with her dad. Although this has been very hard for me to accept and there has been a lot of pain and hurt expressed along the way.....i now feel that this is her journey and that as a mother we have to trust and let them go.(even at a early age of 11) She is very angry towards me and tells me she hates me all the time. I have tried to show her love in return, however this in practice is very hard. I was told by a lovely lady (Ann-Marie) that anger is a cry for love and these wise words went straight to my heart and i felt sadness that my daughter did not feel loved. I do see Lucy every now and again and i can see so much of me in her. (stubborn, and cut of from her emotions.) I ask that time will heal the situation and that she will grow and learn to let go of her anger.
The very same thing happen a year prior with my oldest son James, only he was gone for six weeks and i knew James was angry but not for long and that he missed me and wanted to come home. James learnt a valuable lesson :- he had to asked his dad to allow him to return back to me knowing his dad would show a lot of anger in return. James is now 14 years old and refuses to see his dad since Lucy has gone. His reasoning is that he feels his dad puts Lucy first and perhaps feels not so special.
